Helen Smith writes that gender equality should lead to the elimination of alimony.
Personally, I have a hard time justifying long term alimony payments to men or women in todayâ€™s society. Years ago, when one spouse (typically women) was expected to stay home with the kids, tend the house and generally had no training or as many opportunities to make a living as women do today, I would say that alimony might have been more fair. However, in todayâ€™s world, in which women have fought for the right to equality, alimony seems more like a kid getting an allowance from daddy and I believe it should be abolished altogether except for extremely dire circumstances where a spouse is older, cannot work at all, and for only a short term period. No man or woman should be held to being a slave to an ex-spouse after a marriage ends. That said, if we are going to have alimony laws, I believe that men and women should be held to an equal standard under the law. But apparently, many women do not feel that equality holds when they are the ones who have to take responsibility.
In this Forbes article, women are angry about paying alimony:A lot of women are indignant now that the shoe is increasingly on the other foot, says Carol Ann Wilson, a certified financial divorce practitioner in Boulder, Colo. â€œThereâ€™s this sense of, â€˜Whatâ€™s yours is ours, but whatâ€™s mine is mine,â€™â€ Wilson says. â€œMy first response to that is, â€˜All these years we have been looking for equality; well, this is what it looks like.â€™ I think women get angrier about having to pay than men do.â€
Ex-husbands should pay alimony as long as ex-wives keep having sex with them.