Do We Become What We Despise?

Maybe we despise what we envy, and yet subconsciously work to become like it.

or do we despise because we already are?

Hmm, where would you get an idea like that? The last place I heard something like that was the movie Batman Begins...

Do we dispise or weaknesses?

despise our weaknesses. And apparently I despise spelling...

I think it's generally true that we are acutely aware of our own faults, though we may try to ignore them, and that heightened perception extends then to others as well. We hate in others what we fear in our own natures.

My theory is that we become what we fixate on. If we fixate too much on who/what we despise, we'll probably avoid adopting the one trait we hate him/her/it most for, but subconsciously pick up everything else.

Yes.

Clearly, DeoDuce used to despise terse comments.

I agree with X: You are what you think about.

David: Clearly.

No in all seriousness though, I agree with Xrlq that we become what we fixate on.

Despise is a strong word. I think we know our parents better than anyone, and are hyper sensitive to their traits that we like and hate. We fanatically admire their strong points, and despise their failings. Anyone we are less connected to we are unlikely to feel strongly enough about to actually despise.
Since we turn into our parents anyway, yes we become what we despise.

Ok, since we're being serious now, I'm going to have to jump on the bandwagon and agree with Xrlq too.