Adam writes about finding "The One", and I want to add my $0.02.
However, we all need love. We want people who care what happened today. We want people who know what we’re saying. We need people to talk to, cry on their shoulders, cry laughing with, to be down with, and to be pick us up. The extrapolation of this is the need for “The One.” It is an instinctual, spiritual, and insurmountable need and drive to seek out a person who fulfills those needs and desires. We hope to find that person. Hope is closely related to the opportunity available to you and your experiences. Whether acknowledged or not, it is most people’s hope to realize and hold to the person they recognize as their partner, their best friend, their soulmate, “The One.”I don't, personally, think there is a "The One" that needs to be found. I think that there are probably a great many women with whom I could build a happy, successful marriage. Even still, it's not easy to find "A One" (or however you'd want to say it).
I generally try not to go too far out of my way. If I'm going to find someone who will decide to love me, she's probably going to be in the same types of places that I go to myself. She won't be identical to me -- I hope -- but she'll probably share some of my interests; I'm not likely to meet her at a rave or a strip club, for instance.
Mostly, I just live my life and try to make myself into a person that will be "A One" for the type of girl I hope to attract. I've probably got a long way to go, but I'm working on it.
Heather's advice on finding a mate (for men).
First, the intelligence factor - if it's not a match, look no further. Equally important, the morals need to be really darned close. After that, the rest is attractiveness, how quirky is she, and how much fun will you have in 50 years yelling in creative language at the kids to remove themselves (yes, all body parts, please) from your lawn.
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Leonard Read would have called your approach the "candle in a darkened room." It works, too.
I just desided to come in and to say that I like your page and to wish you good luck!
Michael-
I've got the same view on it, and am also searching for "her". Is it just me, or are good, unattached women just hard to find?
I've joined a local dating organization, and am currently on one of those dating websites (go ahead, find me! That should keep you busy for a while!) However, like the U2 song, I still haven't found what I'm looking for.
No offense to the female readers out there, I'm sure that I'm just not looking in their geographic area. ;)
The good unattached women are saying the same thing about finding good men (or so my wife informs me). Whatever social gains we have made by the reforms since the 60s we apparently have eviscerated whatever informal arrangements were around to increase the chances of happy encounters. Whatever else, we all need to think about how to fix that.
Yeah, I don't doubt you're right about that, Mr. Lutas. If you know any good women, you can just point 'em over here :)